Going Through Divorce? Let’s Work Together.

If you’re a middle-aged woman in a long-term marriage and contemplating divorce (or already going through one) because something is no longer quite right, you will need support with what comes next. Consider all the decisions that lie ahead: finances, retirement planning, housing, new schedules, what’s best for your children, possibly returning to the workforce or finding a way to stay in it with potentially new caregiving obligations, just to name a few. It can feel even more daunting when you might also be caring for your parents, confronting an empty nest, managing menopause, or realizing your emotional, romantic, and sexual needs have changed since you first got married.

This is a lot for one person to carry. But you don’t have to go through divorce alone.

My name is Kristen M. Ploetz. I’m a CDC Certified Divorce Coach with previous experience as a family law attorney and mediator. I work with women like you who want to approach their divorce and their future with strength, dignity, and confidence.

Ending a long-term marriage results in a range of emotions that have the potential to impair or immobilize planning and decision-making. This is true whether the divorce is amicable or high-conflict. So when thinking about your future, you should lead with information, not emotion. This is because processing all of your options in a measured, supported way helps create durable and sustainable outcomes. Structured decision-making during divorce leads to lower conflict, cost, and time.

If this sounds like how you want to show up in your divorce, keep reading.

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Adequate support is essential to navigating divorce. There are several kinds of divorce professionals who you can (and often should) lean on. Attorneys, mediators, CDFAs, real estate experts, and therapists are among them. While many divorces cost tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees and can take years to become final, it doesn’t have to be this way when you have the right divorce professionals helping you at the right time, including a certified divorce coach.

Should you work with a CDC Certified Divorce Coach like me to have a lower cost, more efficient divorce?

• Are you having difficulty deciding whether to divorce your spouse?

• Are you struggling with getting your thoughts, goals, or documents organized as part of the divorce?

• Do you want better tools and methods to communicate or co-parent with your (soon-to-be) ex-spouse in order to minimize conflict? 

• Do you want help preparing, organizing, and strategizing for your divorce mediation?

• Is your true (or newly discovered) sexual or romantic identity impairing your ability to remain truly happy in your marriage or live authentically?

• Are you feeling overwhelmed with all of the decisions and long-term planning that are part of the divorce process? 

• Does the potential cost of legal fees and length of time to become divorced concern you?

• Do you feel nervous about actively participating in your divorce mediation or court hearings? 

• Are your emotions getting in the way of making good choices that will support your well-being or your children’s future?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, it’s time for you to set up a free 30-minute virtual discovery session to learn how I can help you move forward.

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As a divorce coach, I work one-on-one with women like you in virtual sessions where you discover and decide what your true goals are, and how to best accomplish them in a way that aligns with your values. We move at your pace with your priorities as the guide.

I guide women toward reclaiming their confidence and calm while moving through divorce, and add structure to their thinking process. Women who work with me feel empowered, informed, and ready to handle their divorce and make decisions that align with the life they want to lead going forward.

After going through my own divorce and working as a family law attorney, I became a Certified Divorce Coach to guide women in midlife who want or need a change, no matter what the stakes may be. My areas of coaching expertise include:

• Helping women decide whether to leave their marriage and make other high-stakes choices
• Anticipating emotional, logistical, and financial issues that accompany ending long-term marriages
• Providing an alternative dispute resolution (ADR) focused framework for reducing conflict
• Working toward what will be in the best interests of a couple’s children
• Navigating and planning short-term and long-term goals of divorcing clients
• Understanding relationship dynamics for women coming out as LGBTQ+ later in life
• Preparing clients to work efficiently and strategically with their divorce attorney and/or mediator
• Educating clients about how to locate and retain other divorce professionals who can further support their needs, including attorneys, mediators, financial and tax experts, real estate agents, and mortgage lenders (including from my own referral network of trusted professionals)

If you are contemplating or going through divorce, let’s work together and find out what lies ahead for you. Contact me here.